“…it’s hard to think about all the other intangibles, those pieces of your child’s intellect – of your child’s heart – that are random, unquantifiable, ungraph-able. The pieces that emerge in fits and starts, the quick passions so quickly abandoned, the restless curiosity chased by bland inertia. All the spiky, tangled bits that can’t be groomed, that simply can’t be curated, to please an admissions officer down the road.”
Read more of Laura Fitzgerald Cooper’s article on Washington Post’s On Parenting.
“Bottom line: we parents need to chill out and change our questions. Here are two that can help us all gain some perspective and start finding more genuine joy in our lives.”
Scott Dannemiller writes this reflective piece for Huffington Post Parents.
Prior to coming to DISES, I taught at the vocational school in Ellsworth. One of the goals of that school was preparing high school students for the work force, military service or a post secondary education, including vocational training or college. After many years in education and the private sector, my thinking has evolved into the belief that we must start earlier than the high school level in prepping children for their post secondary lives. While I do not think we should start sorting students into specific careers, we can do many things to prepare them for a career or further education.
Students at the middle level should have knowledge of the wide variety of options for their future, both work and education. Students should already be practicing a good work ethic, including coming to school on time, completing tasks in a timely manner, or how to collaborate and cooperate. They should learn that their current actions can follow them for the rest of their lives. Currently being done at the middle level, they should also learn about healthy and safe choices in social media, personal health, and social settings. Parents are the greatest influence in their child’s life and should talk to their children about all of these issues, the sooner the better. Schools can be partners in this process, but parents are the primary force.
– Michael Benjamin, Parent and DISES Principal
“Strangers made comments like, ‘So why the short hair? Did her sister cut it?’ I can understand people being curious, but the questions point to one thing — if your child deviates from gender norms, be ready to explain why.”
Writer Erika Kleinman explores this topic in her article for Huffington Post Parents.
Where do you stand? Do you share pictures and other personal information about your kids online?
“…as far as social media goes do as you will. I respect people on both ends of the spectrum and everywhere in between. I just think it’s important to really take a moment to think about where you stand every now and then—to be sure you’re being true to your family values.”
Whether you share pics of your kids or not, read more from Amy Heinz at Using Our Words.
With the start of the school year just around the corner, here is the final part of the Parent Action Plan from College Board’s BigFuture.
“Social media isn’t simply a way of life for kids — it’s life itself. To help them keep their online interactions safe, productive, and positive, we offer the most up-to-date research and guidance on social media basics.”
Struggling to grasp or understand your child’s social media use? Visit Common Sense Media.
“Junior year usually marks a turning point. This is because for most students and families, it’s when college planning activities kick into high gear. Here are some things you can do this year to support your child and give him or her the best options.”
Moving right along, here is Part 4 of the Part Action Plan as suggested by College Board’s BigFuture.
Continuing on to part 3 of the Parent Action Plan, here is the rundown for 10th grade as suggested by College Board’s BigFututre.
Following up on last week’s post, here is Part 2 in the college Parent Action Plan from College Board’s BigFuture.