Why Your High School Senior Should Take a Gap Year

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“At first I wanted a year off because I thought it was going to fun… but now I realize that it will give me time to figure out what I want to do. I didn’t want to go to college and not know what I want to study, or get a degree just to have one. With what college costs these days, I wanted to get a degree in something that would be useful to me.”

From the Parenting section of Time magazine, Liz Pardue Shultz dives a bit deeper into the idea of a taking a year off between high school and college.

Examples of a gap year? Read more here.

Writing a Resume From Scratch

14089974005_67509700a1_b“Pretend you are your mom. Assuming your mom is one of those braggy-competitive types, that is. If she’s not, then pretend your mom is braggy and competitive and then pretend that’s who you are. What would your mom say about you if she knew what you did at work. List every brag. Every award, every time you beat out your competitors, every time you received a pat on the back, every promotion, every raise, et cetera. This is a time to let go of all humility and write everything down.”

For parents and students alike, Suzanne Lucas explores this topic in the following article from Inc.

Parents: We need to get a grip on our own college application anxiety

“…it’s hard to think about all the other intangibles, those pieces of your child’s intellect – of your child’s heart – that are random, unquantifiable, ungraph-able. The pieces that emerge in fits and starts, the quick passions so quickly abandoned, the restless curiosity chased by bland inertia. All the spiky, tangled bits that can’t be groomed, that simply can’t be curated, to please an admissions officer down the road.”

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Read more of Laura Fitzgerald Cooper’s article on Washington Post’s On Parenting.

Fish or Go To College?

Why not both?

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“Cody is comfortable with distance learning technologies. His island school adopted them out of necessity more than a decade ago. He also is comfortable moving between the island and mainland, again, a skill born of necessity. He doesn’t see why he can’t fish when the fishing’s good and take courses online in the evenings.”

Read more from the Working Watefront article here.

 

Two daughters and a dozen college visits later, an island parent offers her insight

Although I am sure it is not the norm, my oldest child, Emily, was prone to procrastination. She knew she would be going to college but she did not want to talk about it, think about it or do any of the things necessary to choose a college; perhaps she thought it would just magically happen. I strongly encouraged her to sign up for a college coach (best program ever!) but she still did not seem very excited about the whole process and was more than a little resistant toward my attempts to engage her. As a last resort, in the summer before her senior year, I forced her to go on a college admissions tour.

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The tour was at Colby College. As a high school student I attended basketball camp at Colby, but thinking they were all pretty much the same, I assumed Colby would be just another college.  On our visit, I was completely blown away by all Coby had to offer. The tour was far more than looking at the facilities. The student guide gave us scads of information about life in general at Colby- I still remember that they have 54 intramural and club sports (including quidditch) in addition to their varsity sports; they have a woodworking shop available to students and alumni for life and one of the dining rooms fries up homemade doughnuts every Saturday morning. It was the little details that made my daughter’s eyes light up for the first time as she anticipated going to college.

We continued our touring with a late summer trip to Dartmouth, Middlebury, and the University of Vermont. Emily and her friend Ann took copious notes at each place and thoroughly compared and contrasted them in the back seat of my minivan. My younger daughter Allison, about to enter her first year of high school, tagged along taking in much more than I expected (and has been thoroughly excited about the prospect of going to college ever since). In the fall, we made a last minute trip to tour Bates, Bowdoin, and Harvard. Every tour was beneficial. At Bates the parents and students toured separately allowing both students and parents a chance to ask sensitive questions without the others around. (Bates also has the most immaculate laundry rooms I have ever seen and 10 soundproof practice rooms with grand pianos.) College students led the tours and were very knowledgeable and incredibly honest about college life.

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Looking back, three years, two daughters and a dozen college visits later, there are a number of things I discovered that stand out to me from our touring:

  1. Your child may not know for sure if they want to go to a particular college that they are visiting but they usually know right away if they do not…and that is important information to have.
  2. Each college that you visit will emphasize why they are different- what they offer that no one else does. You probably will not find this information on their website. Most small liberal arts colleges have a similar list of majors and most state universities offer similar areas of study but they are certainly not all the same.
  3. Go to the admissions talk– you may think that if you have heard one you have heard them all (I did) but no, there have been valuable nuggets of information in every admissions talk I have attended. The talks usually focus on admissions and financial information for their particular institution including helpful tips on what admissions personnel are looking for that you might not hear anywhere else but, they also include general information that will help with admissions at any college.
  4. Your child will not spend four years in a bubble so look around at the town the college is in/near; believe or not, college town has been an important factor with all four college bound students that I have toured with.
  5. Do not wait until they are seniors. Take your children early; visiting as sophomores or juniors gives them time and incentive to fulfill all the admissions requirements of the colleges they like most.

College visits inspired in my girls both an excitement and an anticipation for attending. They were able to see themselves there playing rugby, singing in an a Capella group or reading under the pines. I think it alleviated a lot of the fears and hesitations, maybe even the procrastination, associated with the unknown. Spending time on different types of campuses, and learning the myriad of opportunities available at college, helped them discover what was important to them- even if it brought them no closer to knowing what they wanted to do for the rest of their lives. Finally, visiting colleges with my daughters helped to quell some of the many fears I had about leaving my little girl all alone in a community of strangers.

– Heather Cormier

In Preparation for Student’s Future, Parents are Primary Force

Prior to coming to DISES, I taught at the vocational school in Ellsworth. One of the goals of that school was preparing high school students for the work force, military service or a post secondary education, including vocational training or college. After many years in education and the private sector, my thinking has evolved into the belief that we must start earlier than the high school level in prepping children for their post secondary lives. While I do not think we should start sorting students into specific careers, we can do many things to prepare them for a career or further education. 

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Students at the middle level should have knowledge of the wide variety of options for their future, both work and education. Students should already be practicing a good work ethic, including coming to school on time, completing tasks in a timely manner, or how to collaborate and cooperate. They should learn that their current actions can follow them for the rest of their lives. Currently being done at the middle level, they should also learn about healthy and safe choices in social media, personal health, and social settings. Parents are the greatest influence in their child’s life and should talk to their children about all of these issues, the sooner the better. Schools can be partners in this process, but parents are the primary force.

– Michael Benjamin, Parent and DISES Principal